Holding Space For One Another

What does holding space look like in the workplace?

Think back on your own workplace experience. Can you recall a time when someone bravely shared their own lived experience in a meeting and a leader--and perhaps others--tried to explain away or minimize what the person shared?

In moments like these, it's crucial for us to pause and acknowledge our colleague's experience. Just a few sentences can be extremely powerful: “Thank you for sharing that. I hear that this was painful for you. Can you tell us more?” This not only holds space for this individual but opens up an opportunity for real dialogue and increased understanding, benefiting your entire team.

I love Heather Plett's book on The Art of Holding Space, which I'm now reading. One of the paradoxes of holding space is that it requires intentionality, self-awareness, and courage...and yet it can feel like you're doing nothing. Plett describes holding space as the practice of being present, open, and supportive for someone without trying to fix, control, or judge their experience.

1. Creating a safe and nonjudgmental environment where someone can express themselves freely.
2. Resisting the urge to control the outcome or impose your perspective.
3. Offering support without taking over, and allowing the person to navigate their own journey.
4. Being comfortable with discomfort, recognizing that growth and healing often happen in messy, uncertain spaces.

Leaders, when you hold space, you are building trust instead of shutting it down. During these uncertain times, I can't think of anything more important than that.